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IF YOU’VE EVER LOVED YOURSELF, YOU KNOW WHAT SAME-SEX LOVE IS

IF YOU’VE EVER LOVED YOURSELF, YOU KNOW WHAT SAME-SEX LOVE IS

As we move into 2018, I would like to take a moment and let you know that this website is a judgement-free space. Welcoming people with an open mind and loving heart. Let’s be nonresistant when meeting each others. It’s the way to learn and […]

‘I CAN’T AFFORD THE TIX’ MIGHT’VE BEEN TRUE, BUT ‘I HATE MY BODY’ WAS TRUER

‘I CAN’T AFFORD THE TIX’ MIGHT’VE BEEN TRUE, BUT ‘I HATE MY BODY’ WAS TRUER

Sometimes, we forget to live our lives. We’re too busy hating who we are… Everyone holds pain deep down – it’s why we go to bed upset, walk down the road and sigh, give up on calling the ones we miss but begrudge. I am […]

3 INTIMATE MOMENTS OF 2017

3 INTIMATE MOMENTS OF 2017

They’re tiny and simple – a candid reminder that lasting joy can be found when you least expect it:

1) ME, POTATOES AND A GARDEN: well, one day last spring I was home alone, feeling lonely and forgotten. So I made some mashed potatoes, went outside into the back garden, sat on the grass and ate it. Sky was at dusk, an ant tried crawling up my bowl. Wind was chilly, but I really was at ease.

2) A BENCH, SOME WIND AND A VIEW OF VANCOUVER: this was on my last day of Spring break, which I spent in Vancouver. I’d just finished late lunch, by myself, at a place I really wanted to try before leaving (called cactus club cafe). Went outside, and there was these beautiful waterfront promenade. Found a bench, took a seat, put my feet up, and just existed. It was gusty, but I had my cousin’s warm long coat. My eyes teared (windy!), my heart filled with emotion, and I felt so little in the face on skyscraping beauty 🙂

3) AN ACAI BOWL, UNHAPPY WAITERS, AND A MATURE GUY: not too long ago, I had my first ever acai bowl, somewhere healthy and overpriced in Mexico City. There I was, just me and the acai bowl – all I could feel was bliss. I loved every slurp of it. Why didn’t I try it sooner? Around me, the room was busy with grumpy waiters. Why are they so unhappy, I remember thinking. Would I act the same way, if I were them? All of a sudden, an old guy was sat next to me, at the long communal table. He was by himself, too. And despite his age, he made sure to take a picture of the food before delving in. I thought that was funny.  Will I ever do that?

Siiii açaiiii ✨✨✨✨#tudyboy #love #loveislove #vegan #açai #desayuno

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ROMANTICISING PAIN

ROMANTICISING PAIN

I catch myself dragging me into unease, discomfort, worry and fear. I think about the choices I make, or I let myself feel the next right step to take – and yet, come good or bad, I quite always manage to find my way back into […]

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: WHEN YOUR CHILD STOPS SPEAKING, BECAUSE OF PROFOUND TRAUMA

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: WHEN YOUR CHILD STOPS SPEAKING, BECAUSE OF PROFOUND TRAUMA

I have recently discovered that Maya Angelou, the renowned poet, singer, and all-around sensational woman, stopped speaking for five (5!) years after having been raped at age seven. And that made me reflect on my very own childhood and the many times I would stop […]

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: HEALING YOUR VENGEFUL INNER CHILD

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: HEALING YOUR VENGEFUL INNER CHILD

These last few days I have had to process a great deal of low-vibration feelings and emotions. But… there’s a blessing to every situation – and the revelation I had was this: heal the vengeful inner child.

We are never angry because of what we think we’re angry for: every stressful event is merely an enabler, which triggers and brings up that very first time we got to experience feelings of helplessness, abandonment, and so on.

For me, being a child who couldn’t physically stand up for or defend himself left behind deep scars and profound trauma. To this day, my cellular memory still retains vivid memories and imprints of feeling helpless.

Now, what can we do about this detrimental energy? We can’t destroy it, but we can manipulate, move and shift it. And the way we can do that is by:

Trusting: trusting the process of life, trusting a higher force (God, Universe, etc.), its vested interest in our very own well-being, and trusting everything happens for our highest good. How exactly do we trust, you ask? By…

Praying: if you pray a supplication prayer (i.e.: where you beg for something), make sure to refrain from dictating any specific ways by which that which you’re asking for shall reach you. Your vision and my vision are limited by our own humaneness, so let Divinity/Life/Force provide through expected and unexpected ways. Now… if you’re not praying a supplication prayer, very good on you! That means you’re giving thanks and staying grateful before anything even gets to happen, which might very well be the greatest display of trust.

Elevating: elevating our own vibration, and getting to a higher vibration (which is where love, abundance, peace, fun and all those other goodies navigate about) allows us to reach and attain the very things we long for. You can elevate your vibrational energy by staying away from negative people, news, places and situations. Essential oils, time in nature, stillness, devotion, and meditation all elevate your vibration and take you one step closer to realising your full vision.

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: 3 FAST TECHNIQUES TO BE STRONGER THAN YOUR FEARS

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: 3 FAST TECHNIQUES TO BE STRONGER THAN YOUR FEARS

Healing and growing are like peeling an onion: the deeper you go, the more you’ll cry. So let not this process dismantle you, and just now, surrender the need to understand. Hands up if – whenever something beautiful, loving, and unexpectedly good happens to you, you […]

A LIST OF THINGS I GAVE UP ON IN 2016

A LIST OF THINGS I GAVE UP ON IN 2016

Decluttering is the first step to living a peaceful life. Freeing up space for our highest good to come in is therefore essential, so here’s a list of stuff I said bye-bye to throughout 2016 🙂 Perfume – because it’s full of nasty chemicals which […]

ELIMINATING FEAR – DAY BY DAY

ELIMINATING FEAR – DAY BY DAY

Throughout my life, FEAR has been my drug of choice. For some grander reason, that I can’t quite fully comprehend now, fear has always been there for me, slowly turning into a comforting state of mind that I could always evade to. And that’s how fear became my go-to feeling every time anything good was about to happen, slowly but surely turning into the perfect self-sabotage mechanism I now recognise to have been employing over the years.

Fear is an amazingly efficient tool we use in order to stay away from joy and abundance. Now why would any sane person consciously choose to do so? Because we know how to deal with lack and adversity; failure feels very familiar, and certainly easier to process than divine abundance and unlimited prosperity, which most of us simply cannot fathom let alone accommodate as an acceptable, integral part of our lives.

Living richly and gloriously (which doesn’t have anything to do with finances) has come to feel alien and unattainable, which is why we turn to fear to keep us away from living our highest good.

And it’s only when you welcome fear with love, acceptance and gratitude that healing can start happening. As long as feelings of fears are being processed by a judgmental, limited mind, suffering occurs, and healing stands absolutely no chance whatsoever.

Instead of being angered by feelings of fear, simply breathe and let them go away, like waves do. Be grateful for your spiritual capacity of cherishing fear and seeing it for what it really is: a teacher, teaching you stuff about your own self that you were simply not seeing before. Be gentle. And patient. Then go have a yummy snack. Depending on the snack you choose, you might experience contempt or anger. And even fear because you hopped off the positivity wagon. But let that be yet another lesson that god (or life/universe/divinity) would have you learn. And that’s how you heal. Not in a few days or in a decade or two. But for as long as you shall be alive, in the here and now and sweetness of the present 🙂

THE BREAKUP HEARTACHE

THE BREAKUP HEARTACHE

People come into our lives for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime. -beloved Iyanla When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100 percent of the time. -beloved Iyanla’s sweet friend Katie * Breakups hurt because of the ‘what ifs’ and vulnerability […]


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