Tag: grow

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: STOP WAITING TO BE SAVED, IT DOESN’T WORK!

EMOTIONAL MONDAY: STOP WAITING TO BE SAVED, IT DOESN’T WORK!

I’m here to confess to you the many times I had waited to be saved – how my saviour never came – and how I shall not be expecting external salvage from now on. Let’s explain and expand a bit. What do I mean by waiting/wanting to […]

A LIST OF THINGS I GAVE UP ON IN 2016

A LIST OF THINGS I GAVE UP ON IN 2016

Decluttering is the first step to living a peaceful life. Freeing up space for our highest good to come in is therefore essential, so here’s a list of stuff I said bye-bye to throughout 2016 🙂 Perfume – because it’s full of nasty chemicals which […]

THE BREAKUP HEARTACHE

THE BREAKUP HEARTACHE

People come into our lives for a reason, for a season or for a lifetime. -beloved Iyanla

When I argue with reality, I lose – but only 100 percent of the time. -beloved Iyanla’s sweet friend Katie

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Breakups hurt because of the ‘what ifs’ and vulnerability required to embark on a new relationship – only to have it snatched away.

Breakups hurt because of our ancient fear of losing control.

Breakups hurt because we lead from the mind – and not the heart.

And breakups hurt because we ask why? why? why? instead of saying thank you! for the lessons.

Some people live a codependent love, and never break free. Breakup never occurs because boundaries are not clear. These are the people who draw a line in the sand, have their line overstepped and then just back off and draw a new one.

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Most people accept the breakup when it is needed, yet aren’t fully equipped to navigate it in a way that feels looks and sounds self-honouring. To you I offer:

* It is a process. The one you broke up with is the very same person that could’ve best taught the lessons you needed in order to grow and move on. Give thanks for every little lesson you got out of your time together: when praise goes up, the blessings come down – I.V.

** Underneath every broken heart lays a vastitude of self-love. And self-love is what’ll pull you forward into better, more plentiful experiences.

*** Your life post breakup isn’t just falling apart. There’s some restoration going on. You’re being prepared for something grander.

**** Still love the person, but set them free. You can still love somebody, but change the way you stay in relationship to them. This way you’ll set yourself free, too, and remain open to better, more plentiful experiences.

***** Take some time off. Reflect on your time together, understand what make you tick, tock and boom. Mistakes, when evaluated, make masters – I.V.

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Photo credits: honeybeamm


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