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FOOD INSPIRATION, WEEK 4 OF 2018

FOOD INSPIRATION, WEEK 4 OF 2018

Here’s your weekly digest of yummy food pictures + precious lessons we can all learn about clean eating and conscious food choices! Week 4 of 2018 FIRST PART OF THE DAY   During the week, I wake up super early (5.32 am) and go to […]

IF YOU’VE EVER LOVED YOURSELF, YOU KNOW WHAT SAME-SEX LOVE IS

IF YOU’VE EVER LOVED YOURSELF, YOU KNOW WHAT SAME-SEX LOVE IS

As we move into 2018, I would like to take a moment and let you know that this website is a judgement-free space. Welcoming people with an open mind and loving heart. Let’s be nonresistant when meeting each others. It’s the way to learn and […]

‘I CAN’T AFFORD THE TIX’ MIGHT’VE BEEN TRUE, BUT ‘I HATE MY BODY’ WAS TRUER

‘I CAN’T AFFORD THE TIX’ MIGHT’VE BEEN TRUE, BUT ‘I HATE MY BODY’ WAS TRUER

Sometimes, we forget to live our lives. We’re too busy hating who we are…

Everyone holds pain deep down – it’s why we go to bed upset, walk down the road and sigh, give up on calling the ones we miss but begrudge.

I am still daunted by the many years spent hating my body.

So many sea getaways that I said no to, nervously having to come up with a blatant lie or the classical ‘I can’t afford it…’. Back in the day, there were little things that scared me more than the thought of my bare body in just a pair of swim trunks, for everyone to see. What was causing so much fear and distress were the jokes, nudges, and physical aggression I would see coming my way.

This skinny, unmanly boy was scared, and no one around me knew how to help.

Kids grow up to be anxious adults, who sail their life away in a dramatic pursuit of vision beyond just money and status – because there’s often no emotional/mental wellbeing support around.

My plea for you, then, is to take care of your heart and mind. Investigate the generational baggage that’s been passed onto you. My family has a long history of staying completely quiet about illness – physical or mental, equating it to shame.

If you too are being conditioned by such generational trauma, break the cycle! Know that this is your chance to heal historical pain, it’s monumental task but liberating and rewarding in the end. You’ll heal. You’ll start a conversation others have been unable to. What a privilege, and what a blessing 🙂

Cry, tears really are cleansing! Break down, let it go, through away those things  keeping you down.

And above all, ask for help. Accept it 🙂

It can feel shameful – it’s not! Even if it takes days to muster the courage and mouth the words, even when you mumble and sweat and overthink your tone, asking for help will be a good thing. In my experience, people won’t judge, they’ll help.

3 INTIMATE MOMENTS OF 2017

3 INTIMATE MOMENTS OF 2017

They’re tiny and simple – a candid reminder that lasting joy can be found when you least expect it: 1) ME, POTATOES AND A GARDEN: well, one day last spring I was home alone, feeling lonely and forgotten. So I made some mashed potatoes, went […]

5 SHOCKING THINGS YOU’LL FIND INSIDE A MEXICAN WELLNESS BAR

5 SHOCKING THINGS YOU’LL FIND INSIDE A MEXICAN WELLNESS BAR

After extensive research (a.k.a. daily visits and hefty bills into my local Verde Bendito) I can successfully report on the fascinating world of matchalicious drinks and healthy nibs in Mexico: 1) LOTS OF RICH MEXICANS – like, every time I’d go, be it at 9 […]

IN EMOTIONAL EATING WE GET LOST

IN EMOTIONAL EATING WE GET LOST

Every time you eat, ask yourself this: WHAT IS THE JOB TO BE DONE (or JTBD)?

What job are you trying to get done, by going out to the places your friends rave about, by buying the food you crave, or by getting the drinks you’re quite addicted to?

From my very own compulsive eating patterns, I have discovered these main jobs that we’re trying to get done when eating:

1) Emotional Jobs: that’s when you feel bored, confused, betrayed, stood up, broken down and so on. Generally speaking, we’re not equipped with the right (read healthy) tools required to process such ‘low energy’ emotions. They often overwhelm us, and food’s become the go-to option for the modern-day depleted human.

You can easily recognise emotional thanks to the guilty aftertaste they leave behind.

2) Social Jobs: workplace, school projects, friendly catch-ups, annual family reunions are all prime examples of social job generators. You do it only partly because you have to – truth is you also lowkey like it. Who doesn’t love living the IG ready life – cute coffee dates, a candid matcha moment, lush gelato stops, popping bagel brunches, and the lost goes on.

How can you tell apart a social job? By that poignant feeling of ‘Ahhh, I’ll look so bad if I say no. Like, will they ever wanna hang again if I don’t come this time?’…

3) Fear jobs: so many of us buy specific foods and develop certain eating habits out of pure fear – of getting ill, of lacking nutrients, of being less than, and so on…

You’re eating out of a fear job when you feel physical stress and experience a state of unrest, or when you mentally convince yourself you MUST have IT, no matter the price.

 

TAKING CARE, OF A SOUL IN PAIN

TAKING CARE, OF A SOUL IN PAIN

I have learned a lot throughout the last few years: loving my queer heart, embracing this slender body, healing abandonment trauma… Yet over and over again, I come across days and times when confusion and pain surge high. The more I look into myself, the […]

INSIDE MY LIFE: ECO BEAUTY ESSENTIALS

INSIDE MY LIFE: ECO BEAUTY ESSENTIALS

Welcome inside my house here in quaint old England and let’s now take a look at the beauty supplies I use on my face, hair, body and teeth: Handmade soap for when I shower. I’ve been loving Sabio soaps for a while now, though certain ones didn’t quite deliver […]

HEALTH TRENDS: US VS. UK

HEALTH TRENDS: US VS. UK

I’m currently living in the UK, but just back from a month-long trip in Canada and the US, so here’s a timely list of how these big ITs fare on health trends:

  1. US is big on Kombucha. Pretty much all major stores stock it, whereas here in the UK, I have yet to find it across any mainstream chains. Next big thing to hit the shelves come autumn-season?
  2. UK has a plethora of gluten-free options. No such thing as GF stands in Canadian supermarkets; hence finding pasta or bread sans the gluten proved quite difficult.
  3. SILK vs ALPRO. When it comes to dairy free milks, these two brands seem to dominate. You could always count on a Silk option in Canada, just like Alpro cartons are usually the only ones to make the cut within smaller grocers here in the UK. What’s more, US cartons are so large compared to their British counterparts – which come in a choice of 1L, at most.
  4. YOGI teas! They’re so different – first time I came across a US Yogi Tea box, I was truly shook! Compared to the European version, which arrives in a pretty, solid, ayurveda-ish looking packaging – the US one comes across as quite flimsy. Those cool quotes with every teabag, that we all love, are printed on a basic white patch of paper – seriously hinder the whole magic.
WHY EATING OUT WON’T DO YOU GOOD

WHY EATING OUT WON’T DO YOU GOOD

My poop stinks, and my skin breaks out; I feel like a gross pig and promise myself not to do ever do it again. That’s pretty much the after mayhem of a meal out, and I would love to explore a bit on why that happens: Food is information. […]


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